Hey sis! A new week is here, and can you believe it? We’re almost done with July. WILD. Like, how did we get here so fast?
Last week we talked all about our mid-year audit (If you missed it or need a lil’ refresher, you can catch up here). But this week? Oh, we’re going there.
We’re talking about mom guilt — and how it can sneakily turn into self-sabotage if we’re not careful.
What Even Is Mom Guilt?
Mom guilt, in my opinion, is that deep internal feeling of shame or guilt that creeps in when we “think” we’re doing something “wrong” for our child — even when it’s actually what’s best for everyone involved.
You know the moments:
- Dropping your child off at daycare even though you have a day off
- Saying no to the playground because you need to go home and study
- Telling your child to play independently while you work or rest
And the kicker? After feeling all that guilt, we either:
- Say “yes” in the moment and neglect our own priorities
- Or… we binge, or splurge out later — trying to “make up” for what we think we did wrong
It’s a cycle. And sis, I’ve lived it. Heck, I still navigate it every single week.
But guess what?
We are NOT bad moms for putting ourselves or our responsibilities on the list. The key is knowing that discipline is not neglect and structure is not selfishness.
So here are a few tips that have helped me fight back when mom guilt tries to creep in:
1. Plan Your Week, Sis. Seriously.
Structure is our best friend. Whether you’re working full time, in nursing school, or balancing both (plus motherhood), a schedule will help you create margin — that sweet free space where you can breathe, catch up, or have intentional fun.
PLEASE NOTE: Self-care is NOT the same as free time. Put it on your schedule daily. You deserve it.
2. Outsource What You Can
Groceries. House cleaning. Laundry. Hair. Meals.
I know the “strong woman” narrative tells us to do it all. But just because you can do it all, doesn’t mean you should. If the budget allows (or if you can make a few adjustments), plug in those services.
Outsourcing gives you energy back. Energy to build. Energy to rest. Energy to pour into your purpose.
3. Talk to Your Babies
Our kids are smart. They watch us. They feel us. They sense our stress.
So be honest. Tell them, “Hey love, mommy needs 45 minutes to study because I’m learning how to help people and build a better life for us.” Let them be part of the journey, not just on the sidelines.
Play first, connect, then set a timer and get to work. You’d be surprised how understanding they can be.
4. Give Yourself Grace
You’re showing up every day. You’re doing the hard things. You’re planting seeds that will bless your family for generations.
The enemy wants you to drown in guilt. But God wants you to thrive in grace.
Verse of the Week
“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”
— 2 Corinthians 12:9 (NIV)
A Little Prayer for You!
Father God,
Thank You for trusting us to be mothers. Thank You for giving us children to love, lead, and learn from. We pray for peace in our homes and grace in our hearts. When guilt tries to sneak in, help us stand on truth. When we feel torn between roles, help us rest in Your provision. May we release perfection and embrace progress. May our kids see strength and softness in us. And may we be reminded that we are not alone — because You are walking with us daily.
In Jesus’ name,
Amen.
You’ve got this mama. Rooted in faith. Resilient through life.
Keep going — I’m cheering you on.
